HE with Refie Redzuan

HE is me. Hi, I’m Refie Redzuan. This is HE. Here is my chance to share some amazing stories with some amazing people that are inspiring to me. HE celebrates everyday people of everyday life. HE revolves around conversations that inspire others, to change the world and make a difference in life— with a little bit of laughter and a whole lot of drama. Join me for personal stories and experiences on health and healing, successes and failures, recovery and discovery, anything relatable and anything in between. HE elevates us to rise again and live our very best life. Just so you know, you’re not alone. HE is with you.

In this season finale of HE, To’ Puan Seri Nabilah Khan dives into the conversation about the state of ‘me, myself, and I’, what it means, and why it’s crucial to understand you, accept you, and live as you. HE articulates the mental health journey that has been a constant page-turner and the discovery of new answers to the never-ending plot twist. All of us are affected by mental health in different ways. The spectrum of mental health is broad. We must change our discourse on mental health away from its binary nature— either good or bad and how it impacts our overall being.

In this enlightening episode, Dr. Shazwani Kamarudin sees the light in the hours of darkness. HE dives into the term referring to the ‘cold light of the night’ or ‘heatless light’ also known as the ‘light of the moon’ in seeing the light between life and death experience for her newborn and the struggle behind her journey of premature childbirth. She reflects on the story of motherhood and hopes for a miracle through powerful prayers, especially from the moments of survival. The horrifying yet miraculous incident has taken a new meaning to her divine purpose in life. In the spirit of faith, her trust in Allah (God) has restored a deep sense of His love for finding insight, tranquility, and acceptance to shine the light in any situation.

In this episode, HE opens up the conversation with Kohinoor K. as she propels on a quest to live her life through a spiritual and self-love journey, living and loving every moment in life through her experiences and how she appreciates herself wholeheartedly to discover the beauty of self-love and gratitude. Behind her kind and loving soul, this is the story where she sees, accepts, and moves past her reflection to explore the freedom to be who she aspires to be and embrace her authentic self with gratification. Living her life takes on a spiritual journey that resembles an understanding of what it means to find herself again and heal from the challenges she endured. Most importantly, she recognized that life is here to serve a purpose. The purpose is to live.

In this episode, Nadia Halim Dziobkowska defines her rendition of the word ‘blip’. HE unfolds the story of searching for the magic to live extraordinarily and celebrating her most precious moments in creating something new, her upcoming cosmetic and beauty line @BlipbyNadiaHalim. The founding of Blip truly reflects a pragmatic approach for women to regain their confidence through the philosophical spirit of living uniquely and authentically by eliminating doubts, instilling the idea to believe in themselves, and be magically bold and ‘un-blip-ably’ beautiful. She unlocks the key to her secrets of how she accelerates and shifts her astronomical success behind the magic of ‘Nadia Halim’ and what maneuvers the next course of life from her painful past to lead a colorful, cheerful, and magical life.

In this episode, Nadiah Aziz seeks to embrace changes in life through acceptance and contentment. HE uncovers how she initiates life-altering lessons and experiences on a personal level, overcomes the obstacles, and becomes a person significant to self-compassion. She delves into the discovery of how beautiful life can be when she appreciates the inevitable changes and finds the meaning of her purpose in life. As a teacher, the journey may have identified her true calling. The story of becoming the change is the importance of having difficult conversations to being soulful, and bolder than ever.

In this episode, HE discovers how Mooks defines the meaning of endless possibilities and succeeds in life through his singing career as the lead singer and a band member of the Malaysian punk rock band, One Buck Short. The story begins with his struggles growing up with speech impairment and why returning to Malaysia after living in the United States for most of his childhood has affected his condition despite the therapy and support he has received. However, stuttering never stops him from becoming who he aspires to be. He reveals how he rises to the challenge to stay appealing to today’s world and become the reason for everyone, particularly his beloved children, to believe that anything is possible.

In this episode, HE engages in a conversation with Fariza Sakina’s approach to a well-lived life through her self-discovery journey and the story behind the epitome of a meaningful and purposeful existence. Her vision of the concept is exceptionally distinct from the theme. Her ultimate motive in this lead is to influence and persuade a positive impact on the community, specifically underprivileged children. She indicates that her true passion is in childhood education. As a proud Sabahan, the free-spirited tribal princess with a gentle, loving soul aims to publish a book in the future related to children’s mental health and aspires to be a trailblazer in changing the education system.

In this episode, Qistina Ayu spares a thought for the big question here on HE. It dives into the empty spaces and fills in the questions with a navigable course. The answers are yet to be known. She shares her story to help those who grieve to be in a position of change for the next chapter in life and take the time to ask and follow through with themselves to make the steps forward more meaningful and purposeful before making any drastic actions into a whole new future. All that she knows is after years of pain and numerous walks of remembrance, brighter days are promising. She consoles herself with hopes and self-love as she continues to give herself ample space for joyous days ahead.

In this thought-provoking and energizing episode, Tj Nizam defines the true meaning of a role model to imply the right of someone to do something positive and concede to living authentically. The conversation with HE unfolds the journey as a fashion designer, the founding of Mazin and the tales of a deep sense of loss— the passing of a dearly beloved friend, Didie Nasir that sparks the beacon of hope and the reason behind the discovery of a dream turned reality. The anecdote of becoming in the odyssey of ‘Let Me Be Me’ is to conform to the idea of finding happiness that could alternate the narrative you utter to yourself toward reaching an enriched and aspirational life.

In this episode, HE explores the story with Jean Loh on what day-to-day life in Paris is about, the idea behind “Paris, I Love You,” what it means and what moves her decision to leave for France, and what makes her fall in love with Paris. As she talks about her everyday obstacles working and living in a foreign place as an expatriate and how it differs from the other places she has lived before, she shares her journey of why moving far from home in Malaysia isn’t the same. She thrives on a personal and professional level, rises to the challenge, and strives to become a better person through this experience that helps her to rediscover herself and finds a new meaning to her purpose in life.

In this episode, Junita Rashid questions whether she can successfully balance family life and running a business. The answer is yes, only with support from her mother, husband, partners, and the team. As a co-founder of Bossmama she explains how the founding began and how the idea has helped mothers in their breastfeeding journey. The community has also positively impacted many women from all walks of life. The conversation with HE explores how she finds ways to balance everything that relates to her as a wife, a mother, a daughter, and an entrepreneur to discover her inspiration in life through experiences that humble her and how this journey has changed her to be the best version of herself.

In this episode, HE starts off a conversation about the different types of insurance to clarify on the misguided information surrounding insurance regulations. As a Business Manager, Don Nazar believes the way forward is to practice with integrity; to navigate consumers by giving an unbiased transparency and upholding a high standard of business conduct and ethical behavior to prevent misuse of the products and services. The story leans on the most challenging experience running the business that changed him as a person to reflect on his role in fatherhood and friendship, and how it forged him to be the person he is today. Finally, he reveals a winning answer about a voyage with his family as the ultimate lifelong dream.

In this episode, the conversation with HE stems from how Edison Ho redefines male pageantry to influence awareness surrounding mental health, fitness, and well-being. As a contestant and a finalist, beauty pageants are an empowering platform. It has been a source of inspiration to be the voice of the voiceless. His participation has helped promote confidence and a healthier definition of masculinity by rejecting the judgment of rank solely on the physical attribute, as it doesn’t make him less than a man. He shares his experience with the pageantry industry and his proclamation to utilize social media with the highest dependency to engage in healthy and impactful spectacles.

In this fun and exciting episode, the casual conversation goes over some of the biggest mistakes we’ve made, the lessons we’ve learned, and the achievements we’ve accomplished. As HE shares the numerology of the upcoming years and the epiphanies each of us has had, the hopes and dreams we have for the world, it serves as our groundbreaking manifestation to reflect upon ourselves in the future. Let’s unfold the power we possess, release our inhibition, free ourselves from the past, pains, and doubts, liberate our sorrows and negative energies and embrace the days ahead with love and kindness to lead a meaningful and purposeful life.

In this episode, HE explores an understanding of the impact and the harm it does to someone’s life with Justin George. Through his experience, validation helps with emotional support and serves as a journey of growth and a sense of self-awareness in building an identity. However, the history of his past related to working with new challenges as responsibilities evolved, ineffective and excessive overgeneralization of positivity may appear toxic and often misunderstood. He suggests practicing learning to recognize and validate another person’s thoughts, feelings, sensations, and behaviors dismiss toxicity resulting in the denial, minimization, and invalidation of the authentic human emotional experience.

In this episode, HE begins the journey in the discovery of the founding of Nexuses and the story behind building the health-tech startup to change how the healthcare industry operates to improve medical treatment. The simplified system provides patients the ultimate control in organizing and utilizing medical data effortlessly for an accurate diagnosis the first time. It dives into his duty as a Founder, Techprenuer, and Chief Visionary Officer in setting up the platform to optimize the system to its fullest potential. He aims to set the establishment apart from other leading medical technology and contribute back to the world by focusing on himself as a person who can emulate the world around him to change.

In this episode, Natasha Ozeir shines the light on what it means to live on her terms. She discovers herself by understanding who she is to her best advantage. She realizes the insignificance she withstands is irrelevant to the bigger picture of life. As an entrepreneur and co-founder of Pretty Suci, starting the business empowers her to take charge of her life by doing what she loves that relates to her as a woman. As she moves past her reflection, there are no secret ingredients to living on your terms. She encompasses the acknowledgment of what a great privilege it is to be human. The fulfillment in life with a sense of purpose is to bear no malice and live for today.

In this episode, she unwraps her younger self and how her upbringing has allowed her to trust herself as she navigates the hardship she endures to own her story. She attests to trusting in the glory the world can emulate by embracing the child quality she has always loved. During the pandemic is when she gained trust again and found her voice. The isolation has acquired her the freedom to journal and provided her with traces of her footsteps in discovering the truth behind who she is. She is adamant that trust is an essential element and a foundational principle that holds her life intact. Trust is treating yourself with love and compassion by consistently looking after your needs and safety.

In this episode, HE unearths a story behind Megat’s journey as an interior designer— how he steers his way to the success of Megriff Designs. The firm has helped design and build numerous prominent clients for their luxury homes known as the impression of a lifetime. Nonetheless, the conversation takes back to his early childhood since the passing of his father and how his career took flight. He defines what it means to be successful, what inspires him to become a visionary, and how his mother played a role in his life. He shares the challenges he faced and how he overcomes the difficulties to stay consistent, all in the name of success.

In this episode, HE delves deep into the milestone research conducted by Dr. Johan Juhari on coping strategies and mental disorders among LGBT+ community in Malaysia. He explains the community is vulnerable to mental disorders due to the pressures of being in a conservative heteronormative culture. The stigmas that Malaysian LGBT+ individuals face from society, the law, and within themselves often are caused by societal and religious values incompatible with the ideology of non-cis-gendered that leads to institutionalized prejudice, social stress, social exclusion, discriminatory hatred, violence, internalized guilt and shame. He suggests more studies should be conducted— to better understand and better manage mental disorders of the Malaysian LGBT+ community as an initiative to navigate the future of a nation that is inclusive and fair for all.